She was teaching - Italian literature and history - in Rome when her father told her that she, not his other children, would be inheriting the estate.

"I used to come here every summer, even after I married, to help with repairs and look after the house. He could see that I loved it - that I'd keep it in the family, that I'd never sell it. Now it's our home, which is why I never want it to have the look of an impersonal hotel. I want our guests to feel at home, too, so we believe in offering hospitality that's friendly but never intrusive. Our guests can be at home, but free!"

Guests in the self-catering apartments will need a car, not only for visiting the many monasteries, abbeys, mediaeval castles and Greco-Roman ruins scattered across the region and getting a taste of life in the nearby towns and villages - where foreign tourists still have a novelty value - but also for getting food and drink. The nearest grocery store selling delicious meat, cheeses and Ciro - the flawless Calabrian wine - is ten miles away in the nearest small town, Chiaravalle Centrale. The road twists and turns all the way, but it's a safe drive, the only obstacles being the dogs that really do choose the road on which to sleep their way through the heat of the day - and also choose not to move out of your way.

There are very few restaurants in the immediate area, so if you want a break from DIY catering, Marina emphasises that the hotel's dining room is open to all guests at I Monaci, as is the swimming pool out on the terrace - a corner of Calabria tailor-made for seekers of sun, serenity and solitude.

Italian home cooking

I’m not a foodie, but I was with someone who knows quality nosh when she tastes it, and she assures me that the dinner we had with Marina and her husband – pasta and pork washed down by that local Ciro white wine and a delicious Limoncello liqueur – was excellent. Guests who take food far more seriously than I do might be interested in Marina’s Italian cookery courses.

“I usually ask my guests if they want to tackle a complete Italian menu, or if they’re interested in particular dishes – and the most frequent request is about how to make fresh pasta,” she says.

“Most people ask about tagliatelle and ravioli, but I like to introduce them to a typical southern I talian hand-made pasta such as strangugghijapreviti, which is what we call pasta for the poor because it’s made without eggs, just flour and water. It means, literally ‘strangle priests’ – a reference to people becoming so tired of priests that in the privacy of their homes they’d dream of strangling them.

“I also like to teach them to make Scaponata, another southern dish made with aubergines.”


The Blue Moon beach restaurant

What to eat and drink

The upside of slow industrial development – and a reluctance to use chemical fertilisers – is that locally-produced food reaches the shops and restaurants as succulent and fresh as nature intended. Calabria’s beef, lamb, fruit and vegetables are said to be among the best in Italy. Calabria’s premier wines are Ciro Bianco and Ciro Rosso.


What to see

On the west coast, two must-see towns for days out are Pizzo and Tropea. With a 15th century castle and winding streets, Pizzo is a fishing port and a summer resort famous for its tartufo ice cream – ice cream balls wrapped in chocolate – and its miles and miles of vast unspoiled beaches, all but deserted in any month but August.

“Welcome to paradise,” said the owner of the Blue Moon beach restaurant and bar in Pizzo when we staggered in at the end of a day’s swimming and sunbathing. “There’s no such place, but this is close,” I said as we watched the setting sun laying a path of gold from the shore to the horizon.

Not far north of Pizzo is the Maida plain, where the British turfed the French out of Calabria in 1806 at the battle which gave its name to Maida Vale in North London.

Further south, Tropea is an attractive small cliff-top town with commanding views of the sea and two miles of broad sandy beaches, a restored Norman cathedral and a fascinating mix of handsome mediaeval and baroque villas. Tropea’s recent claim to fame is that, according to a Calabrian biochemist, its red onions have the same effect as Viagra – the common active ingredient being nitric acid. Sadly, I didn’t learn about this until after I’d left.

Small inland towns worth visiting for glimpses of Italian country life miles off the tourist beat are Nicola da Crissa and, on a forested plateau high in the hills, Serra San Bruno, founded in the 11th century by Saint Bruno – founder of the Carthusian Order – and now a relatively prosperous centre of the region’s woodworking industry. Baroque churches, tiny cafés and small stone and wood houses with elegant balconies line the main street.

Want to know more?

Long Travel, specialists in southern Italy in southern Italy, Sicily and Sardinia Tel 01694 722367
Email: info@long-travel.co.uk

bmi
Tel: 0870 6070 555

The nearest airport is Lamezia Terme, which is served only by Alitalia. My choice was to fly with bmi from Heathrow to Naples (daily flights start from £79.10 return including taxes and charges), stay overnight there, catch the morning train for the three-hour ride south to Lamezia (£44 standard class return) and collect a hire care from Maggiore Rental's rail station office (£164 for seven days, booked through Skycars International) for the 90-minute drive to Torre di Ruggiero. It's a journey that gives a taste of naughty Naples, grandstand views of the azure Med as the train winds its way down the breathtakingly beautiful coast - and a reminder of what a well-run railway feels like.

An alternative recommended by Long Travel is to fly to Catania in Sicily, pick up your hire car at the airport and cross the two-mile Messina Straits by ferry to Reggio di Calabria for the two-hour (two-and-a-half hour maximum) drive north to Torre di Ruggiero. BA flies to Catania from Gatwick for £177 return, and bmi goes there from Heathrow from £240 with Long Travel.

Purple Parking
Tel: 0845 450 0808

There's nothing like a reliable railway service, and since there's nothing resembling that in the country that invented trains I feel - call me a pessimist - I've no alternative to driving to Heathrow or Gatwick if I have to check in before 1pm for my holiday flight, even though I know that for not much more than the cost of a week's parking I could buy a very cheap but cheerful week's break in Spain or Greece.

I shopped around carefully for the most economic airport deal and found Purple Parking, which has secure sites at Heathrow, Gatwick, Stansted, Manchester, Edinburgh and 14 other UK airports. A seven-day park and ride deal in early August at PP's Heathrow site costs £55.95 compared with the advance booking rate of £78.50 charged by BAA, which runs the airport and would charge a whopping £116 if you turned up without having been careful enough to book ahead.

For £84.95 you can buy PP's Meet and Greet service, which eliminates another travelling stress point by meeting you outside the departure terminal, driving your car away and bringing it back on your return. It's an excellent time-saving extra available at Heathrow, Gatwick, Stansted, Manchester and Edinburgh.

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